cis: I don’t date trans women because I don’t like penis
a trans woman: I have a vagina
cis: UM I MEAN I don’t date trans women because I want to have children
another trans woman: I have kids right now who could use a co parent
cis: UM WHAT I MEANT TO SAY IS I don’t date trans women because I don’t like tall muscular people
another trans woman: I’m tiny and short and I have weak little arms
cis: OH MY FUCKING GOD STOP BEING INDIVIDUAL PEOPLE
i am led to understand that the backstory behind trump’s trans military ban is this:
so congress is hashing out their military spending bill, and there was a divide between conservative/moderate republicans over whether the pentagon should fund trans surgeries. in an effort to render the issue moot and help the bill along, house republicans asked trump to simply issue an executive order on the topic. the idea being, if there’s an EO about funding trans surgeries, then congress doesn’t need to bother debating or writing it into the bill one way or the other and they can finally move on to other matters
but trump fucked up; instead of putting an order restricting the military funding of trans surgeries, he declared he was completely banning trans people from service. this is not what congress asked for and it has turned the whole situation into a boondoggle. one republican aide has likened it to trump being asked to light a candle and setting the table on fire instead. this move may in fact endanger the military budget bill, and mire it in further debate on whether to overturn trump’s overreaching EO. add in the fact that trump does not like being told he fucked up, and will certainly dig his heels in, raising tensions between him and congress
so while it’s absolutely a malicious move that will endanger trans service members and will certainly further poison public discourse about trans people in general, there’s at least the silver lining that the order has been administered so incompetently that it’s going to throw a wrench into the republican agenda
Oh my god, this really is what happened. At least according to Politico’s sources. Oh my god these people are so stupid and so evil.
It’s been a long time since I made a comic for this blog, but frustration over recent events has caused me to pick up my pen once again.
It’s funny how some times passing is worse than not passing, since it causes people to accuse you of lying or trying to trick them once your trans status comes up. Yay.
Look, everyone, the cotton ceiling in action! ‘a woman saying she has sexual preference and boundaries!?!?!?! DISCRIMINATION!’
Newsflash: Lesbians don’t like dicks.
Honestly though how about you all stop bitching about lesbians and just date other trans women?
Alright, let me make something clear.
Not dating someone because you are not attracted to them, physically or otherwise, is perfectly acceptable. That’s how it works.
Telling someone you’re attracted to them, want to meet them, only to then feel offended and get violent when you find out that their genitals do not match what you thought they would, is a dick thing to do.
If other people’s genitals matter so much to you, why not start conversations by asking, “Hey, what’s in your pants?”, instead of expecting that the other person will start the conversation by proclaiming what’s in theirs?
RE: your “Lesbians don’t like dicks” comment. I thought lesbians didn’t like men. Are you saying everyone with a penis is male, and everyone with a vagina is female? I mean, I know that’s what you’re saying, but you’re also full of shit.
Do you think a straight woman or a gay man would find a trans woman attractive? Of course not. Do you think you, as a lesbian, would find a trans man attractive, because despite his 100% masculine appearance and gender identity, he’s got a vagina? Only you can answer that, but I hope the answer is no, because that’d make a lot of trans men upset.
Except what you just described about trans men does happen all the time and many of them take full advantage of that double standard.
This is some transphobic bullshit. Let me take this apart:
– Trans women do not want ‘a right to impregnate’, that’s total utter bullshit and whoever told you that is a really gross transphobe making up lies. All trans women want is the right to make their own choices about having children with a consenting partner. Fuck you for even typing out that FUCKING SHIT. FUCKING FUCK I AM SO ANGRY AT THIS FUCKING BULLSHIT. HOW DO YOU EVEN GET YOUR HEAD THAT FAR UP YOUR ARSE.
Okay, deep breath, I’m gonna finish taking this apart and then get back to my rage.
– Trans women who get bottom surgery are frequently denied the right to freeze sperm, which would allow them to have children with a partner after bottom surgery.
– Trans women who do not get bottom surgery are frequently denied the right to freeze sperm, which would allow them to have children with a partner even after long-term hormone therapy.
– Trans women are often misinformed about the effects of hormone therapy and the possibility of freezing sperm, resulting in many trans women not having the time and information to make an informed decision about some day having children.
– Trans women in many places face the legal requirement of getting bottom surgery or getting sterilized in order to be allowed to change the name and gender on their passport. Since violence against trans women is often deadly, this basically means ‘get sterilized or die’. This is forced sterilisation by law, pure and simple. This is an attempt at genocide.
– Trans women who have lost their reproductive options are frequently denied the possibility to adopt children, further denying them the option to raise children.
Feminists who ignores these attacks on women’s reproductive rights are not real feminists,
Trans men, incidently, face all these same problems.
WE ARE GETTING STERILIZED AGAINST OUR WILL AND YOU ARE SPREADING THIS BULLSHIT. THE EXACT BULLSHIT THAT PEOPLE USE TO JUSTIFY STERILIZING US. PEOPLE WHO SPREAD THIS BULLSHIT HAVE BLOOD ON THEIR HANDS. YOU FUCKING TRANSPHOBIC FUCKFACE ON A FUCKING BULLSHIT HORSE. FUCKING ahAAHVWEJHAFHKEJLLASGFJGAK FUCK.
(via Han Koehle): This photo is usually divorced from its specific content. It is the most famous image of Nazi book burning. Most people assume the specific books don’t matter. The horror is at the notion of destroying books, any books, which I can certainly understand. But let’s talk about what was in them anyway.
This image shows Nazi-aligned vigilantes (not, incidentally, government agents) destroying the library of Magnus Hirschfeld’s Institute for Sexual Science. Hirschfeld was the founder of modern transgender theory, and it is his displaced students who founded transgender advocacy in the US. Destroying this library destroyed the first central hub of transgender advocacy in the world. This loss is not an inconvenience. Parts of that library can never be replaced.
In the 1910s Earl Lind read one of the books from that library and wrote for a feminist magazine that mothers ought to raise their trans children according to their endorsed gender (as Lind said, their “mental sex”). One hundred years ago there was a movement to normalize trans people. It was based on scientific study and the assertion that a just society should be based on logical evidence, and logical evidence showed that gender variance was perfectly natural and perfectly healthy. That movement is what was displaced when Nazis stormed the library and burned all the books they found.
We recovered from the loss of Hirschfeld’s collection, eventually. We are once again at a place where people write to feminist journals extolling parents (no longer mothers!) to raise their trans children according to the genders of their hearts. But suppressing trans existence is so visible at the heart of the party that just came to power in this country. We’ll see what happens next.
When I went into the store today after work, I had decided I was going to be brave. I had a pretty good day, and I wanted to reward myself with something I’d been eyeing for quite some time. Mens underwear.
I won’t lie, I stalled quite a bit before I slunk over to the mens underwear section, but eventually I wound up in the aisle looking over my various options. It was while I was trying to figure out what size I would be, that the man is all his socks and sandals glory came into the aisle. I barely had time to look up before he bellowed at me, “you fucking abomination”
I gaped like a fish while I tried to wrap my mind around the fact that yes, this was happening, and yes, he just yelled that at me. He said it again, and began to make his way towards me, very tall and very angry looking. All the clever things I wanted to say died in my throat and tears started pooling in my eyes.
Just as he was getting right up in my face, telling me about how there wasn’t a single god from any religion that would accept a piece of shit like me, you appeared at the end of the aisle. You ran towards us and put yourself between me and him like you weren’t a tiny 5 ft nothing. Then you stuck your finger in his face and told him to “shut the hole in his head that was spewing ignorance and hatred and get out because he wasn’t welcome here”. It was his turn to be the fish then, and before he could say another thing you shouted “GET THE FUCK AWAY” drawing the attention of shoppers who had been so conveniently hard of hearing before. He tucked tail and left.
You turned to me then, put the underwear I had dropped back in my hand and asked if I was okay. I was sobbing and could feel my face doing the ugly thing it does when I cry. I nodded, you asked me if there was anything else I wanted to look at in the mens section, I shook my head. You asked if I had anymore shopping to do. I huffed out that I wanted some bananas. You took my hand and lead me towards produce. You told me I was beautiful. You told me I would look so handsome in the underwear I picked. You helped me pick out bananas and told me my future was so bright and wonderful it was practically blinding.
You held my hand all the way to the cashier, and then outside. You asked me if I wanted a ride, I told you I’d like to walk, that I needed some time to cry. You stared at me very seriously, then hugged me so hard I could feel all me pieces coming back together. You said “I don’t even know who you are and I don’t care, I love you”
I cried all the way back home.
Thank you. Thank you for everything. For who you are, and for what you did. Plenty of other people passed by and did nothing, but you came in like a shining beacon and all I can say is thank you. You saved me when I was all alone. Thank you.
alder-knight 